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The (Cyber) Bag of Weasels

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"About as much fun as a bag of weasels"...when I first saw this Irish adage, it made me think of the life of a writer: sometimes perilous, sometimes painful, certainly interesting. My paper journal has always been called "The Bag of Weasels." This is the Bag of Weasels' online home.

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Ah...my third post today. I'd forgotten how nice it is to have nothing to do.

Well, nothing pressing, at the moment. I have some beta work I could do (always) and I could write--and I will--but I've wanted to play along with thefridayfive for some time now, so this seems as good a day as any to start.

This week's questions:

1) When does liking someone a lot become loving that person?
2) Is there a job you would do for free, and is it your current job?
3) What is one person/thing that inspired you to take action of some sort?
4) Though you might not believe in it, would you like fate to exist?
5) What's the kindest thing that anyone has ever done for you?




  1. When does liking someone a lot become loving that person?
    Hmmm...having relatively little experience, having married my high school sweetheart, this is a tough one for me. For me, I think, the difference between liking and loving is best seen in my behavior around that person. I have friends around whom I am never fully myself. I wouldn't dream, for example, of chatting with them out of the blue about slash or story ideas or my bizarre "religious" beliefs. I hold myself back. But when I love someone, it comes with a measure of trust that allows me to behave as myself, say whatever and act however I want. There are few real-life folks who have that honor, especially outside of my family.

  2. Is there a job you would do for free, and is it your current job?
    My first inclination is to say, "Writing!" But I have always felt that I have to write; it is part of my nature to construct stories and wish to put them down in some tangible form. So I will always write, whether I am paid for it or not. (And I am realistic enough to know that I probably never will be paid for it.) Is it my current job? Well, my current "job" is research statistician/confectioner. While I do identify myself as a writer, it is not my job, no...nor do I think that I'd ever want writing to be my only job.

  3. What is one person/thing that inspired you to take action of some sort?
    My sister inspires me. *waves to ssotknapsack* I figure that if she is brave enough to acknowledge who she is and who she loves, then I must be brave enough to stand up against people who speak against or try to impede the rights of others. This has lately been mostly a GBLT issue, since I live in a liberal state where other forms of discrimination are not common, but I like to think that I'd stand up for anyone who needed it. I am lucky: I can love and marry the person I chose. But that doesn't mean I can turn a deaf ear, just because I am not directly affected. And who knows? Maybe one day, I will be.
    “They came first for the Communists, and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Communist. Then they came for the Jews and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a Jew. Then they came for the trade unionists, and I didn't speak up because I wasn't a trade unionist. Then they came for the Catholics and I didn't speak up because I was a Protestant. Then they came for me, and by that time no one was left to speak up.”
    -Martin Niemoeller

  4. Though you might not believe in it, would you like fate to exist?
    Unequivocably, no. I'd feel pointless, without purpose, but to serve someone else's designs.

  5. What's the kindest thing that anyone has ever done for you?
    My husband supports my dreams, no matter how silly. I wanted to make ice cream, so he bought me an ice cream maker. I wanted to own a business, so he became my business partner. When I am caught up in a story, he even listens to me ramble, though he doesn't always know what I ramble about. And he's the only person to have read all of my original writing. I once had a protagonist who said, "If you want to show a woman that you love her, you give her her dream," and he gives me just that.


  • I once had a protagonist who said, "If you want to show a woman that you love her, you give her her dream," and he gives me just that.

    *wibble* The big romantic part of me just melted in a puddle on the floor. Man, I wish I had that same thing in my life, but I have to resort to writing it and reading it... but hey... that's something, right? And some small part of me still hopes it'll happen one day...

    Maybe not in this life, but perhaps in the next... :-)
    • I hope it happens for you too! You deserve it, certainly. :)

      But it is something--I think--to be able to write about and enjoy it. So many people are negative and cynical all the time...I love your cheerfulness! *hugs to Isil for making the world a happier place* :)
  • I wouldn't dream, for example, of chatting with them out of the blue about slash or story ideas or my bizarre "religious" beliefs. I hold myself back.

    Oh, I know what you mean. I don't talk to real people in my life about my writing this way either. I'm always willing to voice my religious beliefs (or lack thereof), but the slash in my writing... there are a few people who know and to whom I've spoken about it birefly as an answer to "What do you write?", but I'd rather speak to an share with people who know what I'm talking about and understand. *hearts online friends*

    Though you might not believe in it, would you like fate to exist?
    Unequivocably, no. I'd feel pointless, without purpose, but to serve someone else's designs.


    I'm with you on this one. I guess we both feel this acute need for independence and self-determination.

    "If you want to show a woman that you love her, you give her her dream," and he gives me just that.

    *sigh* That is just so wonderful, even to a non-romantic loner like me. You deserve this great man and I am happy that he gives you your dream.
    • I don't talk to real people in my life about my writing this way either.

      I find it very hard to talk to most people about my writing. Usually, they want a ten-second summary of one of my novels. Or they want to know details about WiPs that I don't share with my husband or writer-friends...and certainly am not sharing with them. Or I have to explain fanfic, which is always difficult, or explain why I am not writing to be the next J.K. Rowlings but am simply writing....

      *hearts online friends too* :)
  • My sister inspires me. *waves to [info]ssotknapsack*

    *Big, intense, blushy grin* Awwww. Thank you, truly. I think that made my day/week/indeterminate period of time. :-D

    I've read that quote before (probably in Northern Sun), and I absolutely adore it. And it's true; it's funny how people will ignore (or even vote for or against) something they know very little about, simply because it does not seem to directly affect them. Nevermind that if we stopped to think, we probably all know someone (or someone who knows someone) who knows a racial minority, woman, GLBT person, atheist, or whoever is being persecuted at the moment.

    I won't use your LJ comments to rant about how this is the most egregious government-sanctioned discrimination since racial segregation a generation ago, but suffice to say it's true, and it continues as I type this.

    That's sad, whether you're GLBT or not. :(
    • You're welcome. :) And you did see the quote in Northern Sun; that's where I got it from! Good memory. :)

      I just see such truth in that quote. It's easy to turn away when it's not you facing discrimination or persecution, but the very fact that discrimination and persecution exists means that none of us are safe. First it's the GBLT...but I'm not GBLT. But who's next? Agnostics? Women? Who's to say?

      And I would want people to stand up for me, so....

      Also not going to rant. We've talked about this enough times before. :)
  • But when I love someone, it comes with a measure of trust that allows me to behave as myself, say whatever and act however I want.

    I hope you don't mind me blathering on about myself, but this sort of statement--which I have heard from married friends before--really makes me think.

    I mean, it makes it clear why I am not married.

    My experience has always been that my friends are the people around whom I can be myself, while romantic love feels rather conditional. Well, it is in a very basic way: it's based partly on looks, and I am quite sure that no person I have ever been in a longer relationship with would have stayed with me if I had really let myself go. But even apart from that... I feel like men especially don't really find me appealing, only a slightly girlier version of myself. It's all rather vexing.
    • You're always welcome to "blather" about whatever you wish. :) This thought occured to me too, that most people probably have an opposite experience. But outside of my family--including my husband and my inlaws--I probably have only one friend at the moment with whom I can be myself. But then, I've never been one to form very close friendships.

      I feel like men especially don't really find me appealing, only a slightly girlier version of myself. It's all rather vexing.

      I can see why. If my husband only found me appealing to be girly, I most certainly would not be married.
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