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A Very Good Day!

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"About as much fun as a bag of weasels"...when I first saw this Irish adage, it made me think of the life of a writer: sometimes perilous, sometimes painful, certainly interesting. My paper journal has always been called "The Bag of Weasels." This is the Bag of Weasels' online home.

A Very Good Day!

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Today was honestly one of the happiest days in a while.

First, Obama won last night! Bobby and I stayed up way past our bedtimes to watch his speech. I cried. When I went upstairs to the bathroom at one point, I looked like I had been at a funeral and not celebrating a moment I've been waiting for for eight years! I got teary at random moments today too, reading news stories or people's personal accounts or just thinking about last night.

On top of that, today was Bobby's and my fourth wedding anniversary. He bought me some beautiful yellow daisies, and we had dinner at our favorite Mexican restaurant and talked about (what else!?) the election and his ideas for how to use it to teach his classes ... and we talked about my Elves too. Yes, really. Talk about a 180: a very real political event and fantasy creatures. Well, so we are!

Bobby and I saw Zack and Miri Make a Porno over the weekend, and at one point, one of the characters says that, after a year of marriage, you realize that you have nothing left to say to each other. Bobby and I can't be any further from that. I would get a lot more done if we didn't spend about an hour after dinner, sitting and drinking iced tea and talking about anything and everything. Every night. But I'm not lamenting the lost productivity. I wonder, sometimes, how we aren't out of things to say to each other, but we've known each other for thirteen years and been in love for twelve of those--and running our mouths the whole time!--so it seems that we're just not going to run out of words anytime soon. And I have to say I'm grateful for that.
  • Hurray for not running out of things to say!! Congrats!!
    • Thank you so much! If you knew me in real life, you'd know that I am quiet till you get to know me, then I won't shut up. My husband, I'm afraid, has learned that the hard way. ;)
  • Aw, happy anniversary! I can only hope I too can find a man who can talk to me about Tolkien forever.

    Edited at 2008-11-06 02:03 am (UTC)
  • Congrats to you and Bobby!

    Man, what an election. I almost cried, too. I wasn't expecting to be so affected, but OMG, I feel like my whole family is being represented by the president now, rather than just the white, fundamentalist Christian family members who make dinner conversations awkward. And how cool is this--any kids born in this country today and after are never going to have lived in an America* where the only people who have ever been elected President are/were white men. *is weak in the knees now*

    *Obviously I mean USA specifically, but "an America" sounds more poetic :P

    Edited at 2008-11-06 02:12 am (UTC)
    • Thank you!

      I understand exactly what you mean. I expected to be affected--I know my overemotional self by now ;) --but it still gets me every time to see footage of the civil rights movement in the mid-20th century and think how far we've come and what that means to so many people. And, as you said, to think that young children will have an entirely different idea of reality and possibility than even you and I had growing up (because we're soooo old! ;)
    • (no subject) - dawn_felagund - Expand
  • Mazel tov on your fourth! And I see that Bobby brought you flowers, which is the traditional gift, so that's all good. The modern gift is linen or silk, in case either of you need new SCA garb . . .

    I screamed my voice hoarse when Obama won, along with an entire roomful of U of C students at the campus center election party. That was a glorious moment, especially when the friend I was with (normally an exceptionally verbal woman) was reduced to nothing more than "Holy Shit!" over and over and over again.
    • Thank you! Linen is always useful in the House of Felagund, though the fact that the lord and lady of the house are both in school and working means that it sits folded in the closet in the study. ;)

      I did think of you while seeing the massive crowds gathered to celebrate Obama's victory in Chicago. I wondered if you'd gone down to the victory celebration.
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    • Thank you! :) Having someone like Bobby is, indeed, a wonderful thing. And I am known to avow that "a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle," but it is his support of me--no matter how quirky my interests--that makes him different.

      I did like Zack and Miri. I don't think it was as good as some of the other recent movies like it. (I'm thinking particularly of Forgetting Sarah Marshall, which I loved.) But it was entertaining, funny, and had full-frontal female and male nudity, so it was "controversial" enough (in the American sense) that I want to throw my money behind it. ;) If you've seen and liked other movies of the Apatow school (though he had nothing to do with this one, so far as I know, it was certainly in his style and involved some from his familiar cast), then you'll probably like this one too.
  • I can totally understand the feelings about the election's result, believe me. Last year, when we collectively got rid of those ultra-catholic right-wing rednecks and gave votes to our liberal, pro-European and democratic party, we sighed with relief and cried forever over the result and since then we've been hoping for the better. So yeah, there is a firm reason to get teary, especially since you waited for this moment for 8 years.

    And congrats to you and Bobby! :D
    • Thank you! *hugs*

      I have to admit that I smiled that you mentioned "rednecks" too. I suppose I'd never thought of Polish rednecks! :^D But the rest of the description fit (except substitute "fundamentalist" or "evangelical" for "ultra-catholic") exactly what I'm celebrating that we've finally overcome. I'm very sorry that it took the extreme hardship it did to do so ... but I am glad that it happened.
  • 4th? Why does it feel much longer? Sometimes folks sound so bitter when they say stuff about after one year you're just shut up talking. My parents are the living proof that after 39 years, they never ran out of issues to talk about, so actually I think that says a lot about the foundation of marriage, the willingness to share one's life with another no matter if you have different hobbies or not :) You become one in a way, yet the union needs to be fed with passion, love and well things to talk about. I'd feel sad that after such a day as yesterday I could not talk to my hubby about it. Of course we have moments where we just snuggle and words ain't necessary, but you know... love.

    Congrats Dawn and Bobby, may so many happy years follow!
    • Thank you, Rhapsy! *hugs*

      It probably feels longer than four years because we're going on thirteen years of actually being together! Almost half of our lives now, Bobby and I have been in love. We kind of flout the notion that high school sweethearts never work out. ;) In fact, that we, in many ways, did grow up together is something that we think helps to make our relationship work. And our families--who spent many years making the half-hour trek between Kingsville and Dundalk so that we could see each other--are closer than most families as a result.

      I told Feta above that I do believe that a woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle. ;) But when you end up with someone like Bobby or your husband, that is something special and should be celebrated. (Just as I don't put much stock in having a good "career" but do celebrate when someone finds life work that is fulfilling and meaningful for them.) I sometimes am awed of his support of me--like when I went back to school and he went above and beyond to help me make that happen--because the feminist in me that has been hurt by sexism sometimes still can't believe that I'm lucky enough to have found a husband like Bobby who defies every expectation I'd had about how men treat women. (And I mean that in a good way! :)
  • Congratulations! May you have many, many more years talking about anything and everything :D
  • Congrats to you and Bobby! :D Fourth! That's getting quite close to five, at which point you'll be officially Old. ;)

    (Just kidding of course!)
    • No you're not. ;)

      But I am. Do you realize that Bobby and I are coming up on ten years out of high school next year?! O.O
  • Congratulations to you and Bobby! I think that you are so fortunate to have someone to talk to about elves other than online girlfriends.

    Wishing you many, many more anniversaries and much more stuff to talk about.

    • *hugs back* Thank you so much! I agree ... I am very fortunate! (Though I feel very fortunate to have those online girlfriends too. :)
  • A very happy belated. :o)

    • Awww ... thank you so much! Because I get my comments in email and usually read them at work, it was quite the delightful surprise to see the image while writing my replies today!
  • (no subject) - morelindo
  • (no subject) - morelindo
  • Aww, Happy Anniversary! :)
  • Congratulations on your anniversary!
    About mix nerd-normal marriages, I'm in a worse combination: nerd-golfer - but that is actually another variety of the obsessive nit-picker. And we've been together (and talking) for 22 years (almost dating back to the sinking of Numenor)
    About this question of "America" and "Americans", people here do get a bit pissed off but, at the moment, mostly everybody is in forgiving mood thanks to Obama. And "US citizen" is rather long and unpoetic, I agree.
    • Bobby has a set of golf clubs, but he's never used them. I can't say that I'm particularly disappointed at that!

      Though I suppose that there are plenty who would say, "My wife has a copy of The Lord of the Rings, but she's never read it. I can't say that I'm particularly disappointed at that!" In other words, be nice, Dawn! ;)

      I'm trying to be more conscious of how I use the term "American." It doesn't help that most Americans are brought up hearing that term used as a synonym for "US citizen," so it's one of those things that I don't think most think about until it's called to their attention. As for being unpoetic ... well, I switched to using the proper "his or her" rather than the pseudo-neuter-singular "their"--despite the fact that the former has the same effect on a pretty sentence as a black eye on a pretty face--so I'll eventually train myself into correctness! :)
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